What makes a relationship truly work? Is it shared dreams, constant agreement, or something deeper? Dr A. Velumani, founder of Thyrocare and known for his straight-shooting wisdom, recently sparked a conversation on X with a refreshing take on love, ego, and partnership. His message is simple, yet powerful: love isn’t about having the same dreams—it’s about giving each other the freedom to dream independently, while still holding on to respect.
Expanding on this idea, Dr Velumani broke down the nature of spousal relationships into three brutally honest categories. The first kind, he says, is rare but ideal—where ego doesn’t come into play. In this type of partnership, one partner puts their own goals on hold to fully support the other’s dreams. The reward? A life filled with happiness, peace, and shared success.
The second kind is more common and still healthy. Here, ego exists, but it’s balanced with maturity. Each person quietly follows their own path, even if the other doesn’t fully understand or support it. There’s mutual space, no drama, and enough peace to make the relationship worthwhile.
Then comes the third kind—the one to avoid. It’s built on ego, without purpose or progress. No real goals, just endless friction and arguments. According to Velumani, relationships like these are not worth clinging to.
His advice? Be wise. Choose peace over pride. Whether you’re in a relationship or reflecting on one, his words are a solid reminder that it’s not always about being on the same page—but about being in the same story, with room for both voices to be heard.
Expanding on this idea, Dr Velumani broke down the nature of spousal relationships into three brutally honest categories. The first kind, he says, is rare but ideal—where ego doesn’t come into play. In this type of partnership, one partner puts their own goals on hold to fully support the other’s dreams. The reward? A life filled with happiness, peace, and shared success.
Spouse Relationships:
— Dr. A. Velumani.PhD. (@velumania) July 26, 2025
3 kinds.
1. Zero ego. Giving up own goals and focusing and fully supporting spouse goals and enjoy the fruits. Success, Happiness and peace in life.
2. Ego. But wise. Gives full freedom and work on goals of own that may not be liking for other without… https://t.co/OaC4Kv4esW
The second kind is more common and still healthy. Here, ego exists, but it’s balanced with maturity. Each person quietly follows their own path, even if the other doesn’t fully understand or support it. There’s mutual space, no drama, and enough peace to make the relationship worthwhile.
Then comes the third kind—the one to avoid. It’s built on ego, without purpose or progress. No real goals, just endless friction and arguments. According to Velumani, relationships like these are not worth clinging to.
His advice? Be wise. Choose peace over pride. Whether you’re in a relationship or reflecting on one, his words are a solid reminder that it’s not always about being on the same page—but about being in the same story, with room for both voices to be heard.
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